A minor issue of male orgasm denial and the male chastity lifestyle is how can single men benefit from them, too?
As you probably already know, the two largest groups of people seeking information on male chastity are men and women already in a relationship who are seeking information on what male orgasm denial really entails and how to start using it.
And then there is a smaller but still reasonably large group of young men, often in their late teens or early twenties who feel like their constant arousal and consequent masturbation habits have gotten out of hand (excuse the pun) , and they find that it is draining their energy, reducing their drive to go out and find a real partner, and generally has a negative impact on their sex lives as single men.
Their interest in the male chastity lifestyle tends to lean towards the fact that it is simply a way of ensuring male orgasm denial and control, and giving them more energy for other things rather than the usual reasons to enhance one. relationship or marriage in a number of different. areas.
But there is another group that I would like to help with this article: single men who would love to live the lifestyle, but who despair of finding a partner who shares the same interest.
At first glance, it’s easy to see why these men feel the situation is dire. After all, finding a partner for a romantic relationship is hard enough without the added complication of having to find someone who shares your particular interest in male orgasm denial and living the male chastity lifestyle.
Even if you frequent the BDSM scene, you will quickly come to find, as with almost all other social scenes, you will reach a certain age and everyone around you is already in a relationship.
So what can a single man do?
Well my answer may surprise you and on first reading you will likely find it quite scary. But bear with me and you will see that it makes a lot of sense.
First, if you have read my other articles on the subject, you will realize that the key to making it work for both of you is clear, open, and honest communication. That’s why when men (and generally are men) ask me how to begin the process of introducing male orgasm denial and the male chastity lifestyle into their relationship, I tell them the most important thing is to be clear about exactly what are you. I want from her.
I know this simple and not always easyBut there is no sensible alternative or substitute.
And a moment of thought shows us that it’s actually done more difficult because we are presenting something new in an established relationship, and there is no doubt that it can be difficult and scary. There is always the fear that your partner will freak out and think you are some kind of weirdo (I never knew it happened to that extent, but I know from my own experience when John introduced it to me, that it can come as a surprise and a shock).
So from that point of view, single men have an easier job, because they are in a perfect position to start the relationship to the desired outcome of male orgasm denial and a lifestyle of male chastity.
Now I am no suggesting you change your style of approaching women to one where the first thing that comes out of your mouth is “Hi, me, Fred, and I like being locked in a chastity belt.“I suspect that while that Will get results, they won’t be what you’re looking for.
But what can you do Early Be sure to communicate openly and honestly about your preferences. Look at me to know This is difficult, and before having this type of conversation, it is best if there has already been some physical intimacy between you. The trick is to act subtly and bring her into the lifestyle naturally through your combined actions rather than placing a high premium on it (the bigger the deal YOU make with male chastity and male orgasm denial, the bigger the deal SHE will make with them, that I promise).
And if you are feeling really brave and want to maximize your chances of success, I highly recommend internet dating. Do not laugh. This is how I met John, and we are an example of a success story.
And when I think back, even though John didn’t openly mention his kink, the signs were there for him to know that I was not contrary to the principles of male chastity and male orgasm denial in practice, even if the theory was new to me. .
There is no need and probably no mileage to post your preferences on your “profile”, but there are many reasons to mention it at an early stage, using any of the many strategies that I have written about in articles and on my blog.
Also, if you look around you, you will see that there are numerous specialized dating websites where posting your deepest, darkest and weirdest fantasies on your profile is not only okay, but it is too. expected of you.
Isn’t internet dating a bit “sad”?
No way.
Because the beauty of internet dating is that you can make a shopping list, and there are absolutely no Reason on Earth not to ask for what you want and to reject anyone who does not give it to you. You don’t have to settle for starting a relationship that doesn’t offer exactly Whatever you want.
To sum up
For some men, and you could be one of them, male chastity and male orgasm denial is a burning desire that just won’t go away. You can zoom out every now and then and they’ll disappear into the background for a while.
But they always come back. And they always will.
You have the right to want what you want, and you have the perfect right to accept into your life only those who will give it to you. Of course, they are free to reject and choose someone else, but that’s okay too.
The point is, just be clear, open and honest about your wishes. early In your new relationship, will you know if you have a chance to live your dream? before You spend a lot of time and emotional energy reaching out to someone who doesn’t want what you want in the long run.