Many people have come to me with the same problem; ‘Everything seems so perfect with this new person I met, I can’t find anything wrong, so I better go before I get hurt.’
It is very common not to be able to figure out what that strange thing is that prevents you from having that deep connection.
It’s too good to be true.
That feeling triggers subconscious fears of hurting yourself and prevents you from making that deep emotional connection. So you just accept that there’s a problem you can’t see and run away.
But the only problem is that you cannot believe that you have found someone so perfectly aligned with your desires.
The qualities you look for in a partner are often set to a very high standard. When you really find someone with those qualities, you tend to close your heart or run away because you can’t believe it’s true.
“How could I find someone with all the qualities I’m looking for?” “I must be missing something.”
The fear kicks in that if you find that special someone, you would be so deeply in love, if they left, you would be totally devastated. So your subconscious fears tell you that it’s best to choose someone with flaws that you can see, so that you never let your heart go all the way into the relationship.
But of course, that leads to repeated relationships that end in failure, obviously, since you choose someone who you don’t really fit in with.
We have to learn to trust more and take risks with a strong heart that is willing to take the risk of being disappointed.
Our courses and articles on Relationshipcoachonline.com will enable you to deal with disappointment and rejection and give you so much confidence that you won’t mind taking that risk.
Only by taking risks will you have a chance at success, because the perfect partner will not know where you live and will knock on your door.
Be willing to try and find out if they are actually too good to be true. If you don’t, your relationships will be perpetually disappointing because you’ll only accept and enter into a relationship with someone who has significant flaws or isn’t what you’re looking for.
If you’re lucky enough to find a real gem of a partner, don’t turn down the special when you find yourself thinking it’s too good to be true.
If you have a feeling that something is wrong and you can’t figure out what, think of it as your own fear.
Your fear is what keeps you in the endless cycle of choosing the wrong partner and missing the right one.
To have the strength not to fear being hurt, follow these three simple steps;
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Think about how many times you have been hurt, and that you are still here, you will always recover.
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Look forward, not back. Difficulties are what make us stronger, and the past was only preparing you for the future, so don’t let it hold you back.
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There is only one thing that makes life perfect, and that is a loving relationship. If you do not take risks, you will guarantee yourself a lonely life. So try and know that if it works, great, but if it doesn’t, you’ll pick yourself up and try again.
Every day is a new beginning for a new life. Forget the past and look towards a happy future.