Scientists discovered that adopting a certain vocabulary actually makes you a different person, more optimistic and therefore more powerful. The subconscious believes what it hears and not necessarily what is true. There are certain techniques that help people turn negative thoughts into positive ones, as the way people use words has a huge impact on the quality of their life. While some specific words have destructive power, others are very constructive and give you more power to accomplish great things.
Let’s take an example: “I can’t” suggests that you have no control over your life, compared to “I won’t” which suggests that you can have your own choice. Simply reduce the use of “can’t” from your vocabulary and you will surely see the difference. His subconscious won’t register “Weak” and it seems like he can choose from several options. You can try using “I could, but I’d rather…”
“Should” is another pain that suggests weakness. Replace it with “I could”. For example, “I could go out to dinner tonight, but I choose to stay home and cook.” Can you see the difference? It is not that you are forced to do something, rather you choose what to do and what not to do. Every time you say or repeat in your mind “I should”, your power weakens, draining your emotions towards the negative aspect.
Here comes the green-eyed monster: “It’s not my fault.” This makes you seem helpless and irresponsible, turning you into a victim or a cry baby. You don’t want to look like this, do you? Well, throw it out and replace it with “I’m totally responsible.” For example, let’s say he lost his job. How? Surely you could have done better. You can say “I am totally responsible and I will be better prepared next time.” This surely makes you more powerful.
“It’s a problem”. Really! People face problems all the time, every day, but this does not mean that you have to repeat it so often. In fact, don’t say it at all, it’s not like it’s music for your years and for your subconscious. Replace it with “It’s an opportunity.” Now you took a different approach, knowing that you can handle difficult situations without regret.
“What am I going to do” is another topic. now you really look desperate and it puts you in a very bad light. Your subconscious registers fear and complaint, you can almost hear it screaming in anger. Just replace it with “I know I can handle it”. Well that sounds much better. Begin to trust that words have their power and can influence your life. Take advantage of this, it doesn’t cost you much in life coaching training, it doesn’t require time or patience. It’s the easiest way to make your life better, to improve your image and… it’s scientifically proven.